Episode 135 – Unspoken Expectations Are Killing Your Projects and Your Career

In this episode, Steve and Jake break down what ownership actually looks like in the real world—not theory, not slogans, but practical, tactical advice engineers can use immediately. They unpack why most project failures aren’t caused by bad intent or incompetence, but by assumed expectations, poor follow-up, and misplaced blame. If you want better outcomes without burning yourself out, this episode will challenge how you think about ownership, communication, and leadership.

Key Topics Covered

• Why ownership is about eliminating blame—not absorbing guilt
 • How unspoken expectations quietly create resentment and rework
 • The difference between micromanagement and proactive leadership
 • Why “I already told them once” is a dangerous assumption
 • How reminder systems dramatically increase project success rates
 • Using data—not emotion—to diagnose failures and adjust execution
 • Why engineers confuse independence with effectiveness
 • How trust changes the way expectations are received
 • When letting something fail is actually the right leadership move

Actionable Steps

• State expectations clearly before work starts—even when they seem obvious
 • Follow up more than feels necessary; assume people are overloaded, not careless
 • Replace blame with data: what failed, when, and why
 • Build simple reminder systems to close execution gaps
 • Frame expectations around winning and outcomes, not authority
 • Adjust your communication style quickly when working with new teams
 • Track one variable at a time when fixing broken processes
 • Take responsibility for information flow, not just your task list
 • Ask: “What would increase the odds of success by 10–30%?”—then do that

Who This Episode Is For

• Engineers frustrated by repeated project breakdowns
 • High performers who feel like they carry more than their share
 • Early-career engineers learning how leadership actually works
 • ICs trying to increase impact without burning out
 • Engineers stepping into informal or formal leadership roles

Why It Matters

Unclear expectations don’t just slow projects down—they quietly damage trust, drain energy, and stall careers. Engineers who master ownership without blame stand out fast. They deliver better results, build stronger teams, and create momentum instead of friction.

Where to Listen

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